I was talking to Carla one evening. She was so happy of her new relationship..but come one day, soon after..she mentioned how frustrated she was..that her boyfriend doesn't make much effort to communicate much. Reason is..too busy with work..and he can only make an effort to see her once a month. I was like.."Ow..okay..but how about sms, phone calls or maybe skype chat..?"..and she said.."Errmm..maybe once or twice a week.. Most of the time he's not available to talk..and I can't call him because he'll be at work..day and nite too.." "How about you guys make appointment..?"..I asked..but then I can't believe what I heard..she actually said.."He said he can't..he's too busy..his schedule is too full. He will call me when he can." Back then, I was thinking.."Geez...that's 'no' effort." That's more like.."Don't call me..I'll call you..(when I'm lonely/when I need you).." O.o
Francesca told me a totally different story. Her boyfriend doesn't seem to make an effort to meet up for a dinner together and choose to go for a futsal match with his friends instead..till he heard that she's going out with her friend..then only he said,"Who are you going out with?? Oh..I've decided not going to the futsal outing. Can we have dinner together..just the two of us..?" Oh, come'on...that ain't right.. Where is the effort in the first place..where is the heart..?
If he is a shy guy like Johnny, I can understand.. Although he didn't dare to ask me out directly for a movie, afraid that he'd be interrupting my busy schedule..he'd still text me once in a while saying that he miss me..and ask me how I am..just like Teddy or Eric and maybe Simpson too..once in a while..even when they're only friends. Someone like Monir makes better effort..said,"Hi..! How are you doing, my sweet friend? Haven't seen you for quite a long time now. Let's come out for a dinner..or maybe I can cook a simple dinner..and we just watch a DVD at my place this Sunday? What do you say..?" Now that's effort..^^
Or take my PDA Little Boyfriend for example.. He got me a surprise..tickets to watch the Opera just because I like it. Who cares if I'm not sitting on a 180 dolar seat for that perfect view..his heart is in the right place..(..no..left side..err...nvm.. :P) Well..it's the heart that matters. Who cares if it's a 2 dollar 70's style open car park opera under the rain.. It's important to open your heart..see..and realise the effort..be contented and appreciate it.
I may know someone who could really complain..something like.."If he really make an effort, why don't he try to book earlier and get better seats..?"
For this kind of people..I might say.."Owh..! Shut da' f**k up..!"..(..if I can la... :P)
In a totally different view..some people could be making too much effort..like Michael for example. 3 seasons..3 long years of complete aggressive persuasion..and he still couldn't get enough of "NO" for an answer. What...what da' heck was he thinking..? "No"as in.."No..You can break me harder than that..I won't take this as an answer.."..hmm..?? OMG...and I was feeling like knock..knock..knockin' my head on the table..crying.."Owwhhh..pls..somebody..kill me...kill me...!"
"Please...let go..! You're totally not my cup of tea..not even chocolate..not coffee..NO..!! Which part of that you don't understand? The 'N'..or the 'O'...??!
I like dark chocolate..not milk chocolate..! English..! Not typical China apek thinking..! Positive..! Not scary negative thinking..! Open minded..! Not conservative freak..! Even your Capricorn starscope reading already said.."Stay away from Geminians.."..so, por favor..! Leave me alone..!"
So sorry..I have to make such an extra effort and gave him a complete 'tsunami'..now he's finally been wiped off my life.. Jesus Christ..don't make me have to go through this again..halelujah..-.-
Well, at times I do feel like I'm trying too hard too..saying too much..and I begin to feel the waves of disaster is going to slam over..then I feel like..No..it's time to stop..shut up. I may be so full of my enthusiasm and advise just because I love and care so much..but it could be inappropriate..in another hand, could also be taken in a wrong way..could be annoying..could even be suffocating. I think it is very important to look at the situations and read all the signs..step back..hold it as needed..not to let situations gets worse. Enough said..don't allow any more damage..stop it. 'Pull your hand brake..or you'll crash.' It's an art..you just need to learn..and observe..and keep on learning..
"If you turn on the tap to the maximum flow and don't know how to turn it off when it's enough..you could drown yourself in your own house..!"
Most of all, effort is made with a heart..given with a heart..and can only be seen and appreciated with a heart."Heart is seen through passion,
passion is seen through enthusiasm,
enthusiasm is seen through effort,
effort is seen through action,
and it all starts from the heart..
or nothing would really work.
Where is thy heart..?"
~Ellie Ng ~
21st June, 2010
passion is seen through enthusiasm,
enthusiasm is seen through effort,
effort is seen through action,
and it all starts from the heart..
or nothing would really work.
Where is thy heart..?"
~Ellie Ng ~
21st June, 2010
Yo..people out there..don't just sit on your butt doing nothing but complaining that no one say "hi" and go out with you..don't complain that.."All the girls/guys I know are not my type.." Go out there and meet more people!..but don't be so desperate to settle with the first, seems-to-be nice girl/guy you saw and end up developing a wrong kind of relationship for the wrong kind of purpose you want in life.. And as for those boyfriends and girlfriends who are sitting there so comfortably, thinking that you are secured..you have it all..and there's no need to make better effort to keep holding on..Well..you may need to be prepared to be called a 'loser' when a better 'choice' comes along and all you'd get is a goodbye kiss. Maybe not even a kiss.. You know how advance the world is now.. a short simple sms could do the job!
No fuss..no drama..save your effort.
'''(*.~)'''
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