A dear friend of mine is struggling financially and could hardly live up to his pretty wife's expectations.
Some friends of mine have been complaining that they have been working like hell to make it up to their bosses' expectations.
"What does she expect? I'm not perfect!"
Yes...you're darn right!
"What do they expect? We are not super powered!"
That's a line I often hear. Yes..yes..yes...my dear friends..Darn right! Exactly!
And just recently, one of my friend complained,
"...are women all like that? ..expect and expect and expect..."
Huh...?? (..gulp!.)
Yo! Hold it.. right there..! Who da' heck expecting anything from you here? Don't flare your temper just yet.. unless you wanna' spoil your own day..or grow old faster..ok.. Gosh! I don't know...May be something I have said or done.. Then..I held a few steps back..almost instantly!
Sigh...
Ya..But as for some people..you can never blame them for placing high expectations to make sure the jobs turn out fine..so that they would get the results that they want.. and so forth...and so forth...
As for husbands and wifes, spouses and friends..or whatever roles you're playing there, please la...don't place too high of an expectation on others...till at times, the person feel suffocated.. and feels like wanna' jump off the roof of the 13th floor!! Expectations are to be there.. but not too much la...ok. Mercy me! (..giggle..)
But from another point of view... let me put it this way. Yet..expectations are to be there..ok. Look at the positive side, my friends.. If your spouse never expect anything from you, but from another.. What would it look like? Your marriage seems like a 'gone case'. Got what I mean?
My dear friends, if there ain't anybody expecting anything from you, wouldn't it seems like you have nothing to offer.. or none of a use? Or when somebody says,
"You can't expect anything from her..."
..what would it sound like? Pathetic la..don't you think? Another 'gone case'. (lol..!)
I have been living my life with full of difficult people around me. Their expectations can really be something like a 'hanging rope'. The more you complain.. the more you're gonna' weight yourself down.. and you're definitely gonna' die.. So, push yourself up a little and work it out positively..and you're gonna' survive just fine!
I remember when I was in primary 1, I have once tried asking my Pa for a new school bag, because I have only been using an old one from my elder sister.. and my Pa said,
"If you get all As, I'll get you one."
I did brought home my Report Card and showed him all the straight As I've got, but then he said,
"If you get all 100 marks, I'll get you one."
Thinking back, I would have said the same as any of you,
"Walau eh...! I'm not a Super Girl le...!" (lol...!!)
But think again.. If not because of his super high expectations, I may not have studied so hard and got straight As! All through my 26 years of life when he was alive, his expectations of me were none the less.. and I have been doing all the best I can possibly be..to survive with that kind of 'hanging rope' around my little neck. Gosh! But look at me now! I'm thankful to my Pa..ok.
When I step out into the society and work, my bosses can expect more of me and I can always deliver. But in fact.. I have always been the one who often expect more expectations from the boss! Gees..!! What da' heck of a society is this..? Isn't my life interesting?
This is how I choose to look at it. So, bring out your positive thinking.. and work it all out with your positive attitude. It's not the end of the world. Life can be pretty much interesting! How would you choose it to be? How would you expect? Well, think about it!
Moral
Beware of too sublime a sense
of your own worth and consequence!
The man who dreams himself so great,
and his importance of such weight,
that all around, in all that's done,
must move and act for him alone,
will learn, in school of tribulation,
the folly of his expectation.
-written by William Cowper-
1731-1800
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